Tuesday, October 17, 2006

In Other Words--Talking to the Navigator


"It doesn’t matter what is behind you as much as it matters who is beside you."
~ Ellen ~
"Laced with Grace"



My husband is convinced that I am a lousy navigator. He would much prefer Sat-Nav to me when directing us to a new destination. Granted I occassionally say right when I mean left, but I always point in the correct direction. He needs to read the entire direction not just the oral direction and we would get there just fine. I know this is true because all of my girlfriends prefer me to Sat-Nav. I am always the one asked to direct, even if I'm sitting in the back. Why? Because they trust me to communicate to them how to get somewhere in a way that they understand. An informal poll at one time with several friends concluded the same thing--our husbands thought we were bad navigators because they did not listen to us. I guess it really does boil down to how men and women communicate.

As I read this quote and thought about the difficulties my husband and I have when I'm navigating versus the non-difficulties with female friends, I wondered if this is my problem in navigating life. Do I say to God, come beside me and guide me and then only listen with human fallible ears that expect the directions to be in the manner I would give them? If so, I am destined to get lost because if I'm listening to what I expect I will probably miss His voice. Or am I listening with ears that hear the way He communicates? That is what will keep me on the right path.

How do we develop ears that hear God? We are obviously capable of this. In telling the parables Jesus sometimes said, "Let them that have ears, hear" (see Matthew 11:15, 13:9 for example) So it seems like hearing is a choice. I know I choose to hear voices in a crowd that I recognize. I'll tune in to them and exclude the others. My friends and I share a common language of past experiences, expectations, and dreams. That is why we are able to communicate effectively. That is what God calls us to as well. He calls us to choose to hear Him, to choose to listen to His directions. The more time I spend with Him the more I am able to tune into His voice and crowd out all the other noise in my life. The closer I walk with Him the more of a common language we will share. I must choose to get closer to Him, to communicate more like Him and to trust His direction. That is why it matters who is beside me navigating--I choose to let Him navigate and I choose to follow.

12 comments:

Camy Tang said...

LOL! I'm actually a great navigator for both my husband and my friends, but I can really relate to the differences in communication!

I admit I don't feel like I hear God very well. I need to improve my own communication with Him. I learned to communicate with my husband, surely I can communicate with God!
Camy

Trish said...

I am not a very good navigator at all. I think I am though and I see to get all mixed up sometimes. I need to choose to hear more. Thanks for the reminder.

Amydeanne said...

oh! You just gave me ah ha moment! about the ears! I get it!

Tina said...

Ears we choose to hear with, eyes we choose to see with and a heart we choose to love with... opening ears to hear is a great challenge. I read your post with chills down my back. I think all of us need a reminder about opening ourselves to Him.

Darlene (CWO) said...

I love this question: "How do we develop ears that hear God?" I agree that we chose to listen. When my children disobey, I say, "Why didn't you listen to me?" I know that they heard me, but some days they choose to ignore.

eph2810 said...

What a great analogy. I have problems with right and left as well, but I point always in the right direction :)...
I am glad that, most of the time, I choose to listen my Lord, but sometimes I miss His hand-signal...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this week's quote. And thank you for stopping by.

Jaime said...

what a great post!
my dh also says that I stink at giving directions. MEN!
It is hard sometimes to remember that God is navigating us and we need to follow Him instead of trying to have Him follow us.

Nic said...

LOL! I'm a great navigator in the car, in life, well there's a different story and I agree that it is always beter to let God tell me the directions.

Jen said...

U sound like me when I navigate. Sometimes confusing left and right but always using my hands to direct what I really mean.

Ame said...

Ohhhh ... I love your perspective on this! Yes ... adjusting to God ... not expecting God to be what I want Him to be ... then using that as an excuse not to hear. Excellent.

Sunydazy@LaKookaRancha said...

Excellent!
You made some very good points!
Thanks for your perspective.
Deborah /Sunydazy

The Imperfect Christian said...

Hearing is a choice. And like everything else in life, it takes dedication and the willingness to change! I have always made it a point to LISTEN without thinking about what I'm going to say next. I first have to LISTEN and THEN respond. Not the two simutaneously, but each at their appropriate times.