Friday, April 05, 2013

I Don't Want to be an After-Mom

Linking up with Lisa Jo for Five Minute Friday:

Five Minute Friday

The theme this week is AFTER:

Go:

"After you do your homework, we'll have ice cream."
"After I finish folding the laundry, I will read the book."
"After I write this note/check this email/make this meal/tell this story..."

"After"
I seem to say it a lot. Too much.  And I hate.myself.for.it.

I grew up in an "after" household. The problem was after rarely ever came. My mom would move on the next task and forget the promise. I hated that. And now I do it. (maybe not the forgetting the promise as much as the making them wait.)

I want to be an "okay let's do it" Mom. I want to be able to put the socks down and read the book. I want to naturally stop what I'm doing to give them the attention they deserve. Even if I do have to finish the task (some things really can't wait), I want to have shown them the respect to listen and know what I'm delaying. And I want to go back and fulfill the promise.

I don't want to be an "after" Mom. One step at a time, one day at a time, I'm going to commit to doing more "now" and saving the mundane things of life for "after." After all, they won't be this little much longer and I don't want to miss it.

Stop.

7 comments:

Maria said...

i think it's easy to become an "after" mom, but you are right, some things can wait and they definitely won't ask for too much longer. Thanks for the reminder....good post!! :)

WesAnna said...

Right there with ya. Great reminder!

Melanie McDonald said...

Wow, this is so important for me to remember. We are going down the fostering route and I dont want to be someone who is so task focused and forget about the children. Thank you xx

Leslie said...

So true and timely in this busy life.

Leslie said...

Almost for to say, Beautiful flower garden quilt, I'm slowly, so slowly paper piecing one in 30's fabrics.

Amy said...

I hate to admit that I was also an after mom but now my babies are grown so I am learning to be a right now mom/friend to each of them.

Marsha @Spots and Wrinkles said...

Ah, Miriam, I don't think your good heart will allow you to go very far amiss. We all do the "right after I do this" thing when the children are little and there are not enough hours in the day.
But the very fact that you are aware of it shows that you will make time when it is really important.
Blessings to you.