Monday, June 01, 2009

Marriage Monday---Right for Each Other?

On paper, German and I are totally wrong for one another. Totally. Incompatible.

He the score-off-the-range extrovert who truly needs people around him all the time in order to regroup and re-energize. Me the score-off-the-range introvert who truly needs in the range 21 hours of alone time daily to re-energize. Incompatible.

He the quick to make a decision, easy to make judgments, thinker and me the let's mull it over a while, intuitive feeler. Incompatible.

He the Army brat who traveled the world and me who lived on the same plot of land (although changed houses at age 4) my whole life. Did I say incompatible?

On paper we are not right for one another.

But God does not deal with "on paper" statistics. And in God's economy, we are totally right for one another.

Because I can push him to learn to be content in the quiet and alone times. He can push me to be much more social. He can actually get us to the decision while I can share my intuition about how things may play out. My feeling tendencies balance his thinking. And he took this small town girl and gave her something she always wanted--the world. At the same time I was able to step to his side and be what he always needed--a wife that could support him no matter where in the world the job took him.

Does it matter that we appear to be complete opposites? No, that is exactly what makes us right for one another. Opposites can bring balance, and that is what we do for one another.

I'm so glad God didn't see the incompatibilities, but instead saw how we would complement one another! German is one of the greatest blessings I have ever received. My life would be incompatible without him.

Success in marriage isn't finding the right person, it's being the right person.

Join us at Christine's site Fruit in Season to hear more discussion on this awesome quote and how we are/are not "right" for one another.


Denise said...

Beautiful post dear.

Christine said...

This is an awesome image of your marriage. I love that he has given you the world and you have given him your sense of stability- to go where he goes. I got goosebumps reading the ways you've balanced each other out. In many ways, Jason and I are the same in being so different.

Kristin said...

It sounds like you two truly are a case of opposites attract (and are perfect for each other).

Bogie said...

Such a wonderful post. I totally agree with you when you said, "God didn't see the incompatibilities, but instead saw how we would complement one another!

Bless your heart!

tonya said...

It is amazing how God can put incompatible people together. Opposites attract, at least we did. Great post!

Danielle Says Hello said...

I love this post - I always talk about my husband and I being complete opposites and people wondering how in the world we got together - I always say that we aren't opposites where it matters - our core values are exactly the same ;)