“Friends, if we be honest with ourselves,
we shall be honest with each other.”
~ George MacDonald ~
Accountability to one another. Accountability is a theme that is occassionally talked about in the church, but is alot more difficult to actually implement. It is hard to do, because it involves much honesty and openness.
I have an accountability partner. She is "allowed" (or requested) to ask the hard questions. She has been given the right to ask how my quiet time is going, if I'm praying more than grace-at-the-table prayers, if I've yelled at my kids today, whether I'm staying on my diet, and if I'm honoring my husband in all aspects of our marriage, just for starters. As we have built up a relationship, we have encouraged each other to ask the hard questions. We've learned the weak points, and we have learned that we are stronger when we share those weaknesses.
The funny thing is, she rarely asks the questions. Somedays I wished she would...because then I would have to answer the questions aloud and truly confront some of the ugliness in my life. But, more often, she doesn't need to ask the question. Because I know that we will be meeting, I evaluate where I'm at in those areas. Just knowing that she could ask forces me to be honest with myself. Then in the course of our conversation and prayer time, I am more apt to be honest with her about prayer support I need. It is a circle: having someone to whom I'm accountable leads me to honestly look at my walk with God, which inevitably reveals the ugliness and weakness of me, leading me to honestly share with that person for prayer.
The honesty, whether in private reflection on my life or in poignant conversation with a friend, always draws me into deeper relationship with Jesus. Isn't that the goal of accountability?
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:
If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!
Lynnette Kraft is our hostess this week for IOW. Please join us at her blog. I'm sure you will be blessed!