Tuesday, February 07, 2012

Marriage Monday--Not Becoming Complacent

It is a rare moment where the baby is asleep and all is quiet in our house.

I sigh. "I suppose we have to go finish the taxes."

"Yeah, we do," he replied. "But first..."  There is a slight twinkle in his eye.  He nods toward a closed door. "I think we have time."

We giggle, slip through the door and set up the game.  He comments that this is the first chance we have had to play pool without passing the baby from person to person in weeks.

You may think that playing a game of pool would not be a priority in sleep-deprived parents, but for us it is crucial.  Our nightly games are a chance to reconnect, to discuss things under the cover of noise, to laugh at each other and with each other.  They are a few minutes of  "us time" in the midst of constant busyness.

As I thought about this week's topic of how to keep boredom and apathy at bay in our marriages, this time was what immediately came to mind.  What matters most to us is to keep finding ways to connect.  In the busyness.  In the parenting.  In the work stresses and the moves and the responsibilities.  We must find ways to connect that are fun (outside the serious, decision-making connections that are inevitable). My encouragement to others is have fun together and have rituals together that keep you....well, together.

Your ritual, fun-connection time will probably not be around a billiard table. Maybe it is taking a walk, or going for a drive.  Maybe it is reading the newspaper together whilst having morning coffee.  Maybe it is in pizza and movie night.  Whatever it is, it is important.  Don't neglect to have fun together.  You are less likely to become bored if you are laughing, talking and connecting.

At least, that is what I have found to be true for us.

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Constance said...

You're right, every marriage is different and what works for one, won't work for another. It's a wise couple who knows the connection between their hearts and then works diligently to keep it thriving! Pool? Who knew? ;-)

Denise said...

Amen, well said.

Anonymous said...

Oh, sounds like so much fun! Connecting over an activity is wonderful (especially for men). No boredom apparent here!

Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday, MiPa.

Hugs, e-Mom

Faith said...

Love this!! and realistic too!!

Tami Boesiger said...

Love it, love it, LOVE it! Fun and conversation and doable at any time. Well done guys.

Marsha @Spots and Wrinkles said...

Mipa - Hurray for connections, whatever form they may take! :)

Have fun and enjoy!
Blessings to you -

eph2810 said...

I so resonate with your post, Miriam Pauline.

It truly it is very important to 'just' have fun together. There is just so much seriousness in our lives, that we need the fun times too.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the last topic of Marriage Monday.